I know at my age it may sound silly or even naïve to believe in the magic of Christmas.
But I do.
If emails are any indication, there are some people out there that think the things I do as the Bicycle Elf are useless and doesn’t help anyone, or they say it’s a waste of time and money or some even say it’s a ridiculous form of self-promotion.
None of those things are true about either my motives or about myself.
It’s all about the magic.
For the life of me, I have never understood why some people get meaner this time of year.
Maybe they are just generally mean on a daily basis and it only gets worse during Christmas.
Despite being a Doctor once for a week, I am not smart enough to know all of that.
But I will tell you what I do know.
There is magic this time of the year and all you have to do to get some of it, is just reach out.
You don’t have to be The Bicycle Elf or have an Assistant Bicycle Elf, such as “Doc” The World-Famous Black Lab to enjoy the magic that is free for the taking this time of the year.
Maybe you could leave a larger tip for that waitress at Waffle House that has the worn-out shoes.
Not to sound like Forest Gump, but do you ever notice peoples shoes that are on their feet all day?
That waitress isn’t working at Waffle House because her therapist said, “she needed to be around regular people more..” No, she is working there to put pay her bills and put food on her table at home.
That extra tip could be just the encouragement she needs.
Encouragement is better than gold sometimes when you are on your feet all day in a thankless job.
There are a lot of people out there just like her.
The cashiers at your local grocery store and the people that bag your groceries.
The people that stock the shelves and the butchers behind the scenes.
The people that clean your offices and take out the trash at your workplace.
They are everywhere, and in the event you can’t do something to show your gratitude, you can do one thing. You can say, “Thank you”, and recognize their hard work.
There is magic in just saying “Thank you, I appreciate you.”
Try it sometime and see if I am not right.
Maybe you are too shy to do that, or maybe you just want to get in and out of those places without any conversation. I understand that.
Everybody isn’t like me and I thank God for that.
But I will tell you something that everybody can do.
There is Christmas magic in this too.
You can forgive yourself and let go of the grudges you’ve held against other people.
You can free yourself of those burdens because I can assure you, the only person you are hurting is yourself.
Do you really think Donna is concerned that you are mad at her for something she isn’t even aware of?
You might be thinking,
“That’s easy for him to say, he doesn’t know what’s been done to me!”
You’re right I don’t.
But I will tell you this, I have had and do have people that hate me and have tried to kill me.
Yep, right here in the good ole U. S. of A.
They lied to me and lied about me.
They slandered me and tried their very best to destroy me.
Why? I still have no earthy idea. I doubt it is because I am so devilishly handsome.
But in retrospect I suspect that may be the reason.
I even know a few people that suddenly got angry with me and despite my asking them “Why”, still haven’t responded to me despite my pleas. I guess they just want to be mad, about what I have no idea.
I don’t hold any grudges against them and there is no hate in my heart for any of them.
Not a single one of them.
I will tell you why.
For starters it takes a lot of energy to be mad and upset and it will rob you of your peace and joy on a daily basis. If you don’t think so, then you are lying to yourself.
Secondly, holding onto hate and grudges is poison to the soul.
Holding on to those things doesn’t hurt the other person, it just hurts you.
You know I’m right.
Some people are just going to be mean and hateful and some of them even wear “I (Heart) Jesus” T-Shirts and there isn’t a damn thing you can do about it. But you don’t have to let it get you all spun up and angry either. It’s a choice.
You might be asking, well “How do I get over that?”
Well, for me, I don’t give a damn or care why people are mad at me or hate me, if they can’t tell me.
You want to hate me, go ahead. I don’t care. I really don’t care.
It’s on you, not me.
So, you see, it’s a choice you make.
There is some Christmas magic in letting that all go and choosing to forgive.
Say to yourself, “I don’t know why so-in-so is angry with me or hates me, but I’ll pray for them.”
You may have to say that to yourself a few times until it takes hold, but I assure you it works.
It’s important to forgive yourself too. We have all done or said things we wish we could take back.
Every single one of us.
Let it go and stop beating yourself up and while you are at it, don’t judge others by a standard that you yourself are incapable of maintaining.
You might even be saying this Christmas, I don’t have anybody that loves me.
I get it.
“Doc” and I don’t have any family either, but we have each other.
And that’s ok too.
Because unlike some of you, I don’t have to endure traveling to Aunt Freda’s house during the Holiday’s and eat that casserole that smelled like somebody boiled a possum in Lysol.
Good luck with that colon cleansing by the way.
You might even be thinking, I don’t have that “special” someone to share this Christmas with me.
Neither do “Doc” and I, well since the Swedish Bikini Team left stately Blackwood Manor before Thanksgiving. But that’s another story for another time.
I am not making light of loneliness or rejection; I know those feelings better than most people.
But I have learned that having that time “alone” is a blessing to spread the sunshine, the magic with others, so get after it.
It is not my intent here to be preachy, I am simply giving you a Christmas gift.
Unwrap it and use it and see if it doesn’t bring you some Christmas magic that in the immortal words of Cousin Eddie from the Christmas classic, “National Lampoon’s Christmas Vacation.”
“It’s the gift that keeps on giving all year…”
So, before “Doc” the World’s Greatest Assistant Bicycle Elf and I begin our journeys this season, I wanted to share this gift with you.
Tell someone “Merry Christmas..”
Call an old Friend and reminisce over a long-ago joke or story and get your laugher on.
Maybe get the courage to call that person, and say “I am sorry…”
Show compassion to those around you.
Spread a little love, good cheer with a heaping dose of forgiveness and see what happens.
There is powerful Christmas Magic in all of that and you can thank me later.
You Are Welcome America.